Last week was a fairly eventful week and not always in a good way. I visited Himself in the care home on Thursday and took in clothes etc. He was cheerful and seemed to have settled in quite well. I had had a phone call with an “assessment” lady that had been informative. I went to bed on Thursday night feeling quite positive. I awoke at 5.20 to the sound of the phone ringing. Bleary eyed and slightly wobbly I staggered across the room and grab the telephone. The care home informed me that Himself had had a fall and that the paramedics were taking him to A&E because he had a nasty long and wide gash on his head. I dressed in considerable haste and arrived at the hospital just after Himself. Ironically and strangely really the journey across the Marsh had been rather beautiful. Swathes of mist clung to the water courses, the dew had silvered the barley field, sheep and lambs silently grazed and a ethereal blanket hung across the canal with the hills suspended above it.
I arrived at the hospital just after Himself. One side of his face was covered in blood, there was a wide gash on his temple and he seemed OK. I stayed with him until the doctor had seen him and informed me that they would do bloods, a CT scan and then stitch the wound and he would be returned to the home. Once he was asleep I returned home. Angry and annoyed that the home had not taken better care of him. I spoke to the liaison person who explained to me that she would immediately authorise a one to one through the night so that it could not happen again. I explained that he had been on that regime in the hospital and when she consulted the notes from the hospital she could find no mention of this. My next phone call was to the manager of the home. I was calmer now but still puzzled as to how this could have happened. The manager explained that when he had gone to the hospital to “assess” Himself he had specifically asked if he was a fall risk and did he have one to one in the hospital. Whoever he spoke to stated categorically that he did not need one to one. A blatant lie. I asked the home if they thought the hospital would inform me when Himself was being discharged. They thought that was very unlikely. They said they would ring me but they would only now when he was coming back when he arrived. They were as good as their word and when he arrived back on hospital transport they rang me. Bizarrely at about 11.00 o’clock on Thursday morning I received a message asking me to rate the service of the hospital. I did not respond and I now know that Himself was deposited in a “discharge lounge” for several hours before returning to the home about 11 hours after he left it. I find the behaviour of the hospital yet again unbelievable. I am not shocked, I am not surprised but very saddened – the NHS has come to this. No humanity, no kindness, no understanding and no respect for a confused elderly person who was no doubt afraid. My reaction is a clear indictment of what we now expect but it is clearly not good enough.
When I visited the next day with my daughter Himself had several stitches and was very confused and sad. He didn’t really know who we were. I am pleased to say that today he was quite different. He was cheerful, still confused but smiling and laughing. We were able to visit with him in the garden in the sunshine, away from the depressing exceptionally noisy lounge. He ate an ice lolly and chatted away. We came away cheered that he seemed to be happier. He appears to be well cared for with clean clothes etc. He appears to be eating too. If this is the best we can expect so be it.
I have resumed my walks when the weather allows and on the last one I put on the Merlin app that records the and identifies bird song. No strange or unusual ones but a good range of those I might expect. In addition A heron took off from the edge of the pond and in elegant gliding flight he flew across the field to the ditch beyond. A green woodpecker had been pecking at the ant nests on the lawn too. Along the dykes a slightly eerie sound rather like a duck but definitely not a duck. The mating frogs were in full chorus calling to each other no doubt with amorous “song”. Reed warblers flitted in and out of the reeds twittering away. The wheat is forming “ears” and the sheep and lambs wander across the field contented to graze as they go. The pond that was so black and menacing in winter as it lapped on to the road has now shrunk to a shadow of its former self with verdant lush weed covering the muddy water. Sometimes a pair of ducks swim around in the shallows.